I understand that sleep is important. I want 8 hours sleep with some down time before, which means I am in bed reading 15 minutes before falling asleep. I must make time here.

I understand exercise is important. I want to train for 1 hour, 5 days per week so with getting ready and a shower afterwards that’s 90 minutes per session. I must make time here.

I understand the importance of good nutrition. I want to cook the majority of my meals with fresh ingredients from scratch. I must make time here.

I understand that personal time and time to myself is important. 1 hour a day is preferable to invest in reading, watching ‘my program’ or a creative endeavour. I must make time here.

I understand that being a parent is important and part of that is being present with my son. I want to be hands on and directly shape him as an individual. I must make time here. 

I understand that hard work in terms of my career when combined with opportunity equates to success. I want to working 8 hours a day minimal (9 with travel), 5 days a week with the odd weekend day when the pressure is on. I must make time here.

I understand that rest is important. Sometimes a nap and sometimes down time after lunch is a human and biological requirement for optimal performance. 30 minutes a day. I must make time here.

I understand that a marriage needs time and investment to stay healthy and nourished. Decent chunks of unspoiled time with my partner 3 times a week. I must make time here.

I understand that family is important, I want to spend quality time with my aging parents, sister, in-laws, niece and nephew at weekends. I must make time here.

I understand that friends are important. I want quality time with my friends sometimes engaging in some form of activity and sometimes just hanging out. I must make time here.

I understand that having a clean and organised home is important. To keep the washing turned around and the place tidy. I must make time here.

I understand that community is important. Volunteering involves part of that including being involved with a local sports team and my son`s school. I must make time here.

I understand that education is important. I want to ensure I’m feeding my mind and growing as a professional. I want to be well informed on the current political picture and what’s going on. I must make time here.

I understand that spirituality is important. To connect with nature and spend time alone in reflection on what it is to be a human being on this earth. I want to regularly meditate, see my coach, and attend my mens group. To be. I must make time here.

I understand that exploring and having new experiences is important. To travel the and see the world and explore different cultures and ways of life. I must make time here.

…I must make time.

…I must make time

…I must make time

The modern life myth I held for many years is that all of this (and more) was possible at once. 

The reality. I can’t ‘make time’. I have what I have. 

I’ve tried. I’ve had a go at having it all, all at once on numerous occasions and I burnt out. 

Failed miserably. 

The maths simply doesn’t add up

I’ve learnt it is far healthier for me to operate with intent in a number of life areas during a particular season and let the others fall away or reduce. 

To maintain boundaries and deploy a ‘no’ or ‘not for now’ where required. 

To leave my propensity to over please and hyper-achieve at the door.

I’ve learnt that everything has it’s seasons and that seasons change. 

I desire a life where I have all my wants listed above. But understand I can’t have all at the same time. 

Being an allrounder. Practicing allroundership and playing long game suits me just fine. 

I mustn’t make time…

I choose to be intentional with the time I have available.

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